The Definitive Book of Body Language
Allan & Barbara Pease · 2004
The Definitive Book of Body Language (2004) is a book by Allan & Barbara Pease on communication & influence. A field guide to the silent signals of gestures, posture, and expression, how to decode what people really mean, spot lies, and consciously send the body-language cues that build trust and influence.
Once you can read the silent 60-80% of every conversation, you can never un-see it, and you stop being fooled by words.
Two of the ideas you’ll keep
The Clif summary of The Definitive Book of Body Language pulls out 7 insights. Here are the first two.
- Body language carries the bulk of a message's emotional impact, when words and gestures conflict, people instinctively believe the body, so learning to read clusters of signals reveals what someone actually feels beneath what they say.
- Never read a single gesture in isolation. The Peases stress reading gestures in clusters and in congruence with words and context, crossed arms plus crossed legs plus a lowered chin together signal defensiveness far more reliably than any one movement alone.
The other 5 — and the full 11-minute summary — are in the app.
What’s inside: 8 chapters
The whole summary runs about 11 minutes, read or listened to.
- The Silent Conversation: Clusters and Congruence
- Palms, Handshakes, and the Politics of Touch
- Smiles, Eyes, and the Face
- Arms, Legs, and Defensive Barriers
- Mirroring and Building Rapport
- Reading Deception
- Territories, Space, and Cultural Nuance
- Putting It All Together
Finish The Definitive Book of Body Language tonight.
Read or listen to the full summary in about 11 minutes, then keep the ideas with a minute of review a day. Start with the 2-minute quiz — no card required.
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