Eight Dates

Two of the ideas you’ll keep

The Clif summary of Eight Dates pulls out 7 insights. Here are the first two.

1. The strongest predictor of a lasting relationship isn't grand gestures but everyday **bids for connection**. In the Gottmans' apartment lab, couples still together years later had turned toward each other's small bids about 86% of the time; those who split turned toward only 33%.
2. **Love maps are never finished.** The masters of relationships never stop asking questions, because a partner is a moving target whose inner world keeps changing. Curiosity, not certainty, is what keeps intimacy alive.

The other 5 — and the full 11-minute summary — are in the app.

What’s inside: 9 chapters

The whole summary runs about 11 minutes, read or listened to.

1. The Science of Never Running Out of Things to Say
2. Date 1: Trust and Commitment
3. Date 2: Addressing Conflict
4. Date 3: Sex and Intimacy
5. Date 4: Work and Money
6. Date 5: Family
7. Date 6: Fun and Adventure
8. Date 7: Growth and Spirituality
9. Date 8: Dreams